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[–] 10 points 5 months ago* (3 children)

I want to be careful as you have mentioned you have BPD, I've had lots of friends with BPD so understand how challenging it can be.

People are a free to not like you and actively voice that with others

People are also free to be friends with you and that person.

Those friends should not be inviting you both out at the same time out if respect, but l are still free to do so. And you and that other person are free to respond as you please.

Did something happen between you and the other individual that would trigger their behavior or is it new? Have you tried asking them them why they feel that way?

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  • [–] [S] 1 point 5 months ago* (2 children)

    I think in a normal relationship you'd seek to mends things but I have 0 interest in trying to work anything out with this person.

    I'd rather find an entirely new friend group than bend over for someone who's trying to push me out.

    In addition to that they're someone's friend and not really mine. I have no connection with them, I don't want or care for any apologies in either direction by me or from them.

    Someone tried to set something up and the response on their side was "I don't care" which is impossible to work with and pissed me off even further.

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  • [–] 2 points 5 months ago* (1 child)

    Your framing this as "push me out" why do you think the other person is thinking this way?

    Them personally wanting to avoid you doesn't mean that they are attempting to sway or manipulate your friends. Atleast from what I know from what you've said so far

    Was there any drama between you to before this happened? Anything besides this incident? Or something between you and your friends who is friends with this individual?

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  • [–] [S] 1 point 5 months ago

    It's essentially an ultimatum from their end "if this person's here I won't be" so, yeah I very much see that as pushing me out.

    No drama, if anything I was very polite and cordial, I think I mentioned elsewhere before over what I said that made them upset. I realized also I don't want to feel like I'm walking on eggshells talking to them either, so in other words I'm not looking to mend things as I imagine in the future if I say something again that they have issues with this will prop up again anyways.

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