Yes, its generative, but it illustrates the idea

I was going to post on !fedimemes@feddit.uk but that instance has a no generative content policy.

I think a major limiter on lemmy growth are the instances that encourage talk of violence, crime, being abusive to others, and are just generally super combative...bad neighbors - maybe not written into the instance rules, but as demonstrated by what instance admins don't enforce on their own users.

I know a schism is scary for a small society like lemmy, but I'm starting to think its necessary

if not a defederation, some protocol level whitelisting of users or comms that demonstrate the bare minimum of being able to play nicely with others (realizing this would take some novel work - like adding a user level whitelist to federation rather then the current banlist, and while were at it some eventual consistency in meta-state in bans)

Basically, the toxicity needs to be partitioned off, gated, or some level of meta-moderation for instances that wont police themselves to minimum levels of behavior. It's embarrassing to share lemmy with people I know now, given how off the wall it quickly gets.