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The new adult life (lemmy.zip)
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[–] 8 points 5 months ago (6 children)

Between rent, school loan, car payments and groceries I was pretty much tapped out. Pulling 60hr weeks I didn't have social time even if I wanted to.

20 years later I never made new friends but at least I'm working a normal 40hrs. Still paying all the same bills and still no time. But I do see the same parents at all the kids activities. That's close enough, right?

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  • [–] 7 points 5 months ago (5 children)

    I do see the same parents at all the kids activities. That’s close enough, right?

    that's pretty much how my parents socialized, so...

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  • [–] 1 point 5 months ago (4 children)

    Agreed. Just depressing how the moment your kid moves up to a better or different team and poof, your "social network" is gone and needs to be replaced.

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  • [–] 2 points 5 months ago* (3 children)

    yeah. the trick is, finding the parents in the groups that you are actually real friends with. not just acquaintences. having a small regular gatherings with those close friends, the ones you want to keep in touch with. it takes more work, but it is worth it.

    this is advice coming from the outside so take it with a grain of salt. it's like, hey, shit shoveler. shovel more shit. you have too much to do already.

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  • [–] 1 point 5 months ago (2 children)

    Yeah I think we all get the concept. The issue comes down to time and resources. My "free time" starts around 1AM after all my adulting responsabilities are done. At that point a movie or a book and sleep is all I have time for. Next week is a mild week with 5 days of kids activities, 2 birthday parties, and hopefully finding time to mow the lawn.

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