Basically when I'm relaxed I act submissively but only when I'm on the alert I am assertive. It's like when someone asks you a math question out of the blue versus when you know you have to be ready for one.

Is this normal? Or should I try being more passively assertive?

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[–] 8 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago)

It is completely normal.

I have no idea what passively assertive is but what you should do is learn when to be “alert” as you call it.

When I am at work I am ready to go. When I am at home I am zoned out and not dealing with it unless it is time to. When I am driving,I am ready to go. When I am chilling on the stairmaster I am in the zone and focused only on the next step.

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