Yeah, I honestly think that initial "Hey, don't do this" talk is better in advance. I remember getting my ass whooped for saying "Fuck" as a kid when I literally didn't know what the word meant and my parent put the video on in the first place.

Educate your kids on what isn't allowed in the first place. If they do something bad that you didn't tell them in advance, then explain why the action is bad, not to do it again, and that you will be checking/monitoring for that behavior. Then you can at least be fully justified in any future punishments because you gave a warning.

Punishments for initial mistakes and unknown wrongs just suck, and they kinda stick with you 🫤