You're right to ask for a definition of what "normal" means. That's relevant.

To me, normal means you actually wanted your kids in the first place, want what's best for them, you live in a relatively safe environment with western values (perhaps optional, perhaps not), with enough money to own devices where you can watch YouTube, in this particular case. That's about it.

Obviously not a blanket thing we can apply globally, no.

But trust in my opinion is worth it's weight in gold. Trust generates trust. Look at how cats show trust, by not really looking at each other at all, and acting relaxed by maybe sitting down and closing their eyes. Because if you are tense, and you keep watching the other cat, it means you need to see their next move in order to react to an attack. When the other cat sees the first one isn't a threat, they do the same thing. Perfect analogy to this situation IMO. Show your kids trust and they will reciprocate. Maybe not immediately but they will grow into it. That's what I believe. 🙂