Don’t have a kid yet (thought of adopting with our partner) and our decision was they were to learn from books, go to the library with them, at most an old 3ds or psp (we’ll fill it with games for them dw) and they can play the games or watch stuff with us (or without if they like) in the living room. We’re planning on setting up our own Jellyfin server with a bunch of movies and shows (we’re actively collecting those and making sure no brain rot is in there, think Bluey and Captain Planet lol) and they can watch those in the bedroom after they earned it.

As for straight up internet access they’ll be allowed to use a family laptop at the kitchen table and we will not be looking at their private data as it’s theirs and not ours, however they’re free to ask us for help and are given clear instructions not to share private info/if they find a creep tell us and we’ll deal with them.

If they collect money and buy (or get a broken one and fix) a phone, laptop, pc or anything else then they can use it wherever and however they like as it’s their property and not ours.