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Gays, what's your opinion on straight women going to gay bars? (lemmy.world)
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[–] 15 points 6 months ago (9 children)

What's my opinion about women going somewhere where they know they'll be safe, you mean?

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  • [–] 10 points 6 months ago (4 children)

    Lesbians and bisexual men rape people too.

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  • [–] 4 points 6 months ago (3 children)

    At a much lower rate

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  • [–] 5 points 6 months ago

    Where'd you find stats?

    I couldn't.

    Like, obviously by total number. But that's because there's a lot more straight people.

    Anecdotally back in my bar hopping days, people were getting dosed at gay bars way more than straight bars. Mostly straight male friends, but once it was it was a woman in our friend group.

    Pretty sure it's because she drank her BFs drink that night tho, that dude was a weirdly a magnet for it.

    But I think it's important that person was just saying it happens there too.

    Like, the people who do this are dirtbags, if women are going to gay bars to feel safe, they're gonna go to gay bars and do this too. Because when people feel safe, they let their guard down.

    Just because a bar owner designated their bar as gay, doesn't mean they have date rapist radar installed.

    People should be aware that nowhere isn100% safe and you still need to be aware.

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  • [+] -21 points 6 months ago (3 children)

    Yeah... OP reaks of being pissed that some girls have figured out a safe space and he's too straight to go to a gay bar.

    I'm happy these girls have found a safe space, I'm sad they had to find a safe space.

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  • [–] [S] 35 points 6 months ago (2 children)

    I'm gay. Bachelorette parties "taking over" gay bars and then SA gay men because "you're gay so you don't care if I grab your butt" is annoying AF. Objectify gay men in our safe spaces is unacceptable.

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  • [–] -5 points 6 months ago

    I mean, have the bar kick them out because they're groping people?

    I've been groped by gay men in straight bars, I never said gay men shouldn't be allowed there. I never even tried to have any kicked out, just said I wasn't interested.

    If you told them that and they kept doing it, you should have had them kicked out because even if they stopped doing it to you, they'd likely do it to someone else.

    But loads of places don't let in obvious bachelor or bachelorette parties, that seems like a more level headed path.

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