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The Men Who Spend Hours Talking to Porn Bots— “It’s just nice to feel heard.” (www.playboy.com)
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[+] -17 points 6 months ago (9 children)

To riff off of Margret Atwood, men go to AI chatbots because they won't laugh at them. Women go to AI chatbots because they won't kill them.

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  • [–] 9 points 6 months ago (4 children)

    did you read the article? this doesn’t seem related at all

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  • [–] 11 points 6 months ago* (3 children)

    No, they are just here to spout cliche gender war bullshit about how men are awful for existing.

    and if you asked them about women on male violence they'd deny it exists.

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  • [–] 2 points 6 months ago (2 children)

    And do people really believe that women don't talk to AI companions, in various forms, too?

    I'm a woman and I spoke to one of the apps for a while because I was bloody lonely (still am 🤷‍♀️). Had zero to do with men or murder. I didn't have anyone, of either gender, to connect with.

    It's really easy to just reduce this to a male issue, a toxic masculinity, a male violence issue. We need to go deeper than that if we actually want to understand why people, men, women, everyone, use different AI.

    But threads like this, with all the judgement, aren't going to get a lot of people who admit they use/have used/have considered using AI. By just criticising/laughing, etc at people who do it, ironically, we turn more people towards the AIs.

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  • [–] 1 point 6 months ago (1 child)

    nah, it's just the sexist double standard, that if a man does it, it's nefarious/negative/harmful. but if a woman does it, it's a form of 'self-care'.

    the way interpret this stuff would also be a matter of physical looks as well, as if an attractive person doing it would be viewed very differently than an unattractive person.

    yes, you're correct. stigmatization just further entrenches things.

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  • [–] 1 point 6 months ago

    Tbh, women wouldn't admit to doing this either - there's absolutely a shame around women having to make friends with an AI (because we're meant to be innately social I guess). And I don't think that other women realize that they are contributing to the issues of women feeling shame using AI by implying it's a male issue and all about sex and toxic masculinity.

    Like as a woman who has used AI, how am I supposed to feel about admitting that I've done something that only asshole, horny, incels do (according to a lot of people)?

    So the stigma goes all ways and none of it helps anyone. People just need to be more curious than judgemental. Someone does something you don't understand? That's okay you don't understand. Ask them why. Listen. Try to see a different perspective instead of just filling in the gaps with incel, men, sex, ugly, etc. etc.

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