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[–] 3 points 6 months ago (1 child)

I think I might start trying to do this.

I recently met a group of people who are close friends with my close friend, and the majority of them did not identify with the pronouns I'm accustomed to assigning based on sight/presentation. And it was challenging to give the level of respect I wanted to, because habits are strong.

I’ve met transpeople numerous times in the past, but they all identified one way or another, so that was pretty easy to respect. NB/agender is MUCH harder to get used to. So I think thats going to be my new holy grail; treat everyone as a default human until they tell me they prefer something else.

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  • [–] 2 points 6 months ago

    Yeah, in my experience most people accept that you simply try.

    I’m in my 30s, I grew up in a small town where people were just not exposed to things. I won’t be perfect by default, but I promise I’ll try my best to use your pronouns.

    I think the idea of people raging about it is a right wing straw man — or just purposeful harassing someone until they get mad that you’re obviously trying to harass them.

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