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Is it wrong to identify as a lesbian even though I also enjoy sex with men? (lemmy.world)
submitted 7 months ago by to c/asklemmy@lemmy.world
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[–] 11 points 7 months ago (1 child)

And your description sounds more like you're asexual with men

Seems more like aromantic to me than asexual. OP enjoys the sex, just not the intimacy.

Labels are dumb, but if I had to call it something, it'd be homoromantic-bisexual or something like that.

I don't see what's wrong in describing oneself as a lesbian in that instance, given that all labels are just labels of convenience and it describes OP's ideal preference well enough. Even if some gold stars may disagree.

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  • [–] -1 points 7 months ago*

    Some lesbians only want to be with other lesbians, and they would feel betrayed/lied to by her calling herself a lesbian.

    Just like women I date would feel betrayed if i called myself straight, but they found out I had a sexual relationship with a man.

    We can make up our own definitions of these things, but other people may not agree with us.

    I mean I think I'm a straight, but plenty of people in my life past and present tell me that I am gay. Including bisexual women I have dated.

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