Just ask an audiophile for a tour of their rig, and they're happy to have you stick your head against the wall to peer back there and see his $2000 worth of stupid cables. He'll even hold the flashlight.
And it's definitely a "Him," no other pronouns required. I've never encountered a female audiophile. The woman of the house (if there is one) is always in the other room, rolling her eyes, and sighing. Audiophile gear already has a very low WAF - Wife Acceptance Factor - an actual audiophile thing - and expensive cables are among the lowest WAF of all.
I mean, what else are they going to do with it, besides show it off? Play music? They've only got three records, and two of them are German sound effects, and the other is the 1812 Overture that skips when the (Actual! Real!) cannons go off.