27
My 6 year old son is misgendering me (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
submitted 7 months ago by to c/parenting@lemmy.world
15 comments fedilink hide all child comments
 

Brief summary of context. I socially transitioned before he was conceived. His birth mother left me before he was born. I spent 18 months fighting to even meet him. Eventually had things going smoothly with overnight time. Then the birth mother cut contact again. I've only just got to see him in a supervised context.

Near the end of the last session I referred to myself as mummy Eve, as I've done thousands of times in the past without issue. This time he yells that he hates it when I say that. He goes on to say I'm just pretending, I'm not a mummy I'm a he, and he knows I'm a he because I'm wearing a top.

I'm certain he's getting this from his birth mum. I'm devastated, it pushed me closer to giving up than I have been for a while. I don't know if there's anything I can do about it in the two hours a week I have with him. (At least for now)

you are viewing a single comment's thread
view the rest of the comments
[–] 11 points 7 months ago

Children are challenging even for an emotionally stable person, and it looks like you are a far cry from stable if this very fact upsets you and you have hard difficulties with the mother. Don’t let this ruin the time you can have with your son, it’s not the names he calls you what matters. In time he could understand, but as another commenter wrote, the concept is way too much for a child to understand. Taking your anger towards the mother just makes things worse, no child should suffer the quibbles of their carers.

  • permalink
  • fedilink
  • source
    •