I do all those things though. What else can I do? You love the men in your life, but you fear me, the strange man you don't know. And I do everything you think a good man should do. You're still afraid of me. I don't know what you want from me? Do you want me to kill myself or something? I feel like I'm being gaslit.
At some point you have to realize your making assumptions about everyone and you're just as biased and flawed as everyone else and you are only seeing through a keyhole.
You think you've thought this all through and I promise you haven't. If you have you can tell me one objective fact that supports your stance. Else you're just telling me you're irrationally afraid and cannot articulate why. Because your fight or flight gets triggered when sense of identity gets challenged. It feels like someone if coming at you with a knife. That's where hard internal questions need to be asked.