The implicit presumption is that if someone is quietly fuming now, they’ll become physically violent later....
That is a gigantic leap... 100% of the population would have many healthy reasons for being quieter than they normally are and the vast majority do not blow up in a violent rage afterwards.
This is exactly my issue with this post.
It’s very hard to discuss a real historical situations when you’re working from a superficial description or hypothetical implication.
Once again, not the point. We can talk hypotheticals all you want but if we are to make a point, it would be best to make a clear one
A friend of mine just had his father-in-law pass away...
Exactly... I don't think it's fair to paint these parents as abusive. Moreover, I do not think there is anything wrong (in this scenario) with kids noticing and trying to help. But this post would paint them as abusive and the child's natural empathy as a toxic defense mechanism
I think even that is too specific...
Indeed it was too specific, but so was the post... a cabinet slam and/or a father being quiet is a far cry from symptoms of an abusive household