Im sorry to hear youre having such a hard time stranger. I hate when people don't listen or try to understand. I hope you

I want to point something out

"I want someone to just listen to what I'm saying and try to actually understand. Like literally that's all I want... but it never seems to happen these days. I feel like it's going to cost me my job and friends. I feel like I'm going to lose everything and have to start my life over again somewhere else."

Unless im misunderstanding, then starting over may be better for you. A friend at the bare minimum should make you feel heard seen and understood at least most of the time with them.

I had a similar issue. I felt undervalued and misunderstood at work and with friends. I would end up feeling my saddest and most alone with those friends.

Starting over can seem daunting especially with how are it can be for folks like us to make new ones. But it may well be worth it for you like it was for me. Idk if that's helpful stranger. I wish you the best of luck and i hope you find people that put as much effort into understanding and hearing you as you put into others 😁