you are viewing a single comment's thread
view the rest of the comments
[–] 10 points 9 months ago (8 children)

Essentially, you're just describing a feeling of "Better Times", or nostalgia. Nothing wrong with that, and everyone has those feelings.

It becomes a problem when people tend to fixate on that, and not realize that time has passed. Not that you can't create those conditions and feelings again, but that life circumstances and everything else really make it impossible to replicate that same thing again realistically.

I think it may serve you better to focus on what about that situation made it great for you, and what practical means you have to create a similar social circle again that will approximate those same feelings. It won't be exactly the same, of course, but it sounds like you have just been feeling somewhat lost without a similar group of people around you.

  • source
  • hideshow 8 child comments
  • [–] 1 point 9 months ago* (7 children)

    I don't think nostalgia and "remembering better times" are equivalent.

    I can reminisce about "better times" all day, but the feeling is absolutely different when some old stimulus comes on and punches you right in the feels.

    Nostalgia is literally feeling those old feelings, not simply remembering them and whining about how they cannot be wholly recreated.

  • source
  • parent
  • hideshow 7 child comments
  • [–] 2 points 9 months ago* (6 children)

    As others have pointed out, I think you should read the context of what OP is saying.

    Had, then lost. Thinking about a lost time. Literally the title.

    You're just describing a subjective way to process feelings.

  • source
  • parent
  • hideshow 6 child comments
  • [–] 1 point 9 months ago (5 children)

    Nope. Just recognizing the nuance between nostalgia and literally remembering better times.

  • source
  • parent
  • hideshow 5 child comments
  • [–] 1 point 9 months ago (4 children)

    I'm not sure what you're thinking is nuanced. They're complete separate and distinct ideas.

  • source
  • parent
  • hideshow 4 child comments
  • [–] 1 point 9 months ago* (3 children)

    Yea, that's exactly my point...

  • source
  • parent
  • hideshow 3 child comments
  • [–] 1 point 9 months ago* (2 children)

    Then you're not understanding what I said. Can't help you there.

    Edit: are you confused on what the word "or" means, perhaps, or is it the Oxford Comma?

  • source
  • parent
  • hideshow 2 child comments
  • [–] 1 point 9 months ago* (1 child)

    lol no I'm not confused. You seem to not understand the situation... sad.

    You said, "you're describing the feeling of 'remembering better times', or nostalgia". Those are two different things. You agree they're two different things, yet you're confused on my point ... pathetic. That is pathetic levels of comprehension.

  • source
  • parent
  • hideshow 1 child comment