Like Lemmy? The site we’re all using?

Cute. Except Lemmy hasn't helped me solve any programming problems. StackOverflow has.

And I think you missed my point, so I'll restate it: If this theoretical middle-ground moderation were actually viable, it would have eaten StackOverflow's lunch like a decade ago. People were SALTY about SO's hostility even before the "summer of love" campaign in 2012.