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I genuinely care about my friends but forgot stay in touch (lemmy.world)
submitted 10 months ago by to c/adhd@lemmy.world
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I genuinely care about my friends and family, but I forget to stay in touch and it makes me feel awful.

I’ll go weeks or months without reaching out, not because I don’t care, but because once someone is out of sight they’re out of mind. Then I remember randomly, feel guilty, and put it off again.

I’ve tried reminders, calendars, notes but nothing really sticks long-term. It’s especially frustrating because I do want to maintain these relationships, it's like my brain just doesn’t cooperate.

Recently I've found a mobile app that helps (after rummaging through the useless, overwhelming ones) but I’m curious does anyone else struggle with this? Have you found anything that actually helps, or is this just one of those ADHD things you learn to live with?

Edit: For everyone asking the app is called Kinly Connect

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[–] 5 points 10 months ago

From my experience, if the guy you've known since High-school, who you've been the best man at his wedding - if that guy first ghosts you when you wanna hang out and then proceeds to say "Next weekend, I'm gonna make time, just for you." and then you text him up on Thursday to ask if he's still up to hang on the weekend, and he says "Woops, sorry something else came up." 4 WEEKENDS IN A ROW, then maybe, just maybe, you've reached a point where you lived yourselves apart.

Seriously, I know I'm not the most important thing in anyone's life, but I didn't want to find out first hand how unimportant I truly am. Ignorance is bliss.

PS: If that first sentence were any longer, it would reach the moon.

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