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I genuinely care about my friends but forgot stay in touch (lemmy.world)
submitted 10 months ago by to c/adhd@lemmy.world
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I genuinely care about my friends and family, but I forget to stay in touch and it makes me feel awful.

I’ll go weeks or months without reaching out, not because I don’t care, but because once someone is out of sight they’re out of mind. Then I remember randomly, feel guilty, and put it off again.

I’ve tried reminders, calendars, notes but nothing really sticks long-term. It’s especially frustrating because I do want to maintain these relationships, it's like my brain just doesn’t cooperate.

Recently I've found a mobile app that helps (after rummaging through the useless, overwhelming ones) but I’m curious does anyone else struggle with this? Have you found anything that actually helps, or is this just one of those ADHD things you learn to live with?

Edit: For everyone asking the app is called Kinly Connect

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[–] 7 points 10 months ago (1 child)

Yeah, I lost all my friends because I didn't keep in touch. However, neither did they. My excuse other than ADHD is about 6 consecutive years of agonizing struggles from divorce to fighting for parental rights to job burnout. I'm working on recovery. It's slow, and executive dysfunction is not helping.

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  • [–] 2 points 10 months ago

    This is relatable ❤️

    I feel like it's hard to want to hang out with anyone when my life is a miserable mess. The level of masking I'd have to perform is more than I've got to give right now.

    On top of that, I don't have the capacity to be there for them in whatever they might be going through... Good or bad. I'm just trying to put one foot in front of the other and survive each day.

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