Username checks out. I find that better situational control has come with age, for me. I sure can put on the charm and be sociable, but it's contextual. I can function well at work, as I've developed a "work persona" that helps keep me on the level, but once I'm clocked out it's a different ballgame. I have to conserve my effort for the times I most need to focus, and doing the thing that brings me income, well, that's a top priority. I spend a lot of "time off" alone recharging.