But the thing is, we all have routines as far as I know. Like what order we but on our clothes, or if we brush our teeth before or after that etc. All those things are routines. It doesn't mean I have lists and steps for everything. It's more that I block out rough time frames. Like, making and eating dinner usually takes around 1h 45min, so I plan for 2h to have some wiggle-room. Then I can move it around as much as I like, when needed. No problem. It's also a gradual thing. I didn't start with everything :)
But yeah, a few years ago, this would have felt super stressful for me too !