you're limiting your interpretation of rape to a single definition. there are multiple, and this certainly fits as one

sometimes facing fears is a better way to overcome problems. hiding or making everyone avoid things that bother you or were a traumatic experience doesn't help anyone.

I used this word because it's definition applys to the scenario. It's the act of pilaging and plundering of my system resources by microsoft and other monitoring tools with no recourse but to abandon them. rape is a perfectly fine word to use. if it was strictly limited to sexual acts, I wouldn't have used it.

edit: I use this word at work too and have no issues with it both verbally and written. moreso verbally because people can't apply multi definitions of words and always assume 1 main definition

I know it's hard, but you'll get through this. One day at a time, step by step, things will get easier. Some days it might not feel like you're making any progress; Some days you'll feel like you're moving backwards. But time heals all wounds. You've got this, eventually you won't even remember their comment existed. Stay. Strong. Keep fighting.