Ruined my relationship with my sister and was never part of my nephews lives because I declined to be their godfather because I'm an atheist. One of the aspects of being a godfather is promising to raise the children in their parents religion if their parents should pass. I told her, unequivocally, I cannot and will not make a promise I know I can't keep, and that's a promise that I could not possibly keep as it goes against my personal views and values. I will not raise your children to be Christian in your absence, and thus I cannot in good faith be their godfather. I thought I was being respectful of her belief by not lying and saying I would do such a thing. My nephews are adults now and I've seen them maybe three times in their lives. Oh well. I don't have any good familial relationships so I guess it doesn't matter. Fucked up families is as fucked up families does. I've always been treated like my life is less valuable by my family since I didn't have children anyway, so fuck it I guess.