To be fair I just follow a collection of subs and never switch to the local or all tabs. You don't seem to have to see your own instance all that often if you don't want to

You can block users or communities, or you can effectively join other instances. I heard good from lemmy.dbzer0.com and lemmy.sdf.org, but it's best to just go on join-lemmy.org or fediverse.party and finding an instance you resonate with.

(Oh yes, in case you didn't know, the fediverse is not limited to lemmy, and is a huge system of many protocols and systems)

On federated social media, things changes very fast, and you will probably move to another instance from time to time. On the first hand, small instance are chill, they can be quite dead sometimes, but that's where you will find peace from politics. On the other hand, big instances are active, but get sometimes involved in useless drama, and that's where it often gets political.

Lemmy.ml, I know it, is a bit annoying on some terms, like the sensorship of some swears like "motherfucker" or of chinese criticism, but they haven't been bothering me so i didn't really leave. They are federated to a lot of instances and that's a good point. Am also on a very small server with a dozen of people, there are plenty of servers like that if you dig a bit.

Well idk why did i wrote that much, hope it'll be useful at least, and that the swear won't get me banned.

See ya cyberspace anon!