I'm not saying all men, because I was one of those men who valued loyalty above all and planned to have my one and only. I still think these men exist, but they're very rare, especially in the gay world. I even find them a little naive for my taste now. It takes a very particular mindset and self-control to stick to monogamy in the long term, and that's what I've lost out of spite, because I never got that in return.

By "men aren’t built for that," I mean so many things by that, from our biology to the endless barrage of cheating stories, and even to socio-cultural differences between countries. Too many things point to us not being a monogamous species, but our societies in the West tend to romanticize and entertain the idea anyway.