All work would have fallen to me and I'm just not physically or mentally capable of that. My husband has cerebral palsy. This makes taking care of a baby very difficult. He's also older than me by quite a bit. I'm already going to have to take care of him as he ages. I can't deal with both ends of this at the same time, child and elderly care. I know what I signed up for when I met him, a child I do not know the problems it could have until its too late.