Weird. I had the opposite experience.

Used to have gfs. They constantly nagged me to don't work out, to not get a better job, to drink, to smoke, and party. oh and don't have friends they don't like and don't do anything that doesn't involve them. i was always trying to get us to get better jobs, take classes, try new things, try new places, etc. They would have NONE of it. Having goals and wanting to do stuff in life made me some sort of huge asshole to them.

I've been single 6 years and my salary has gone up 250%. in the decade I was dating women... it went up like 10%. and i am fitter, stronger, have lots of cool hobbies and i volunteer a lot. I also have pets and own a home. Only thing I don't have in life that I want is a wife/child.

And when I try to date... i just meet women who think all that shit is gross. I already went on three dates this month and got told by each woman that I was 'too put together and active and serious about life'. they just want someone to get drunk with on the weekends. I don't. I can't seem to find any women to date who actually want to be an active participant in their own life.