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[–] 3 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I will just stare blankly with my thoughts on something else, and get accused of gazing. That's the thing, I have to go out of my way not to stare at a person, which often means walking awkwardly, sometimes hitting something I was not looking at 🤷‍♂️

I will pretty much only gaze at a woman if pressured, and I can't even keep that up. The programming is strong that this is very wrong.

TL;DR: I hate male company as a result, in an ironic twist.

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  • [–] 6 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

    Well if I was with you in public, I'd definitely be supporting you to feel more comfortable in your skin. Regardless of the broader topic of nudity and all that, I hope you can find someone who can help you out in that way or generally hope you can make a breakthrough somehow in this area.

    I admit I've dealt with this myself and I had the same intense fear growing up due to bullying, but we have to learn to give ourselves a break. I feel like a lot of people forget that we are all mammals - physical beings that are occupying a space. Sometimes we do have sexual desires or interests, but as long as we aren't intending on making things sexual or awkward - usually it's all a-okay. If we offend someone else with our gaze or otherwise make them uncomfortable, sometimes the best thing is to just apologize and play it off.

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