When I was a kid, my mom always be holding my hands, especially like when we cross the streets. And I remember at the time, I kinda half disliked it, because I always felt like my movements were being too restrictive, like... I feel like I was too close and I wanted to like move around, look at surroundings, trees, squirrels, etc... She was always afraid I'd get lost, or like... god forbid... get hit by a car.

She also tried to hold my older brother's hand with her other hand, but he of couse was older and felt embarassed by it so he refused.

I sometimes just run off and go ahead of her because I was bored and felt like she walked too slow, and like I wanted to peek inside a store from the glass window, for example, then we get to a crossing, and she grabs my hand again. Now thinking back, that was actually so wholesome. Like it kinda feels safe and secure being held on to closely.

The memories I remembered of this was around when I was 8-12. Any older than that and I think I just got tired of it and embarassed and I refused lol.

My dad never tried to hold my hands... I guess fathers are just different lol.

Did your parents do that? Did you like it?

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[–] 2 points 1 year ago

One of the abiding childhood memories of hugging my mother is that it felt like hugging a tree. She obviously didn't like it but wouldn't reject the hug and it never prevented me from doing it but it struck me as odd, even as a ten year old. My dad would hug us normally and hold hands. Later on I realised that we're probably all autistic and have sensory issues. These days I love hugs with my daughter and she always seeks my hand to hold.

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