When I was a kid, my mom always be holding my hands, especially like when we cross the streets. And I remember at the time, I kinda half disliked it, because I always felt like my movements were being too restrictive, like... I feel like I was too close and I wanted to like move around, look at surroundings, trees, squirrels, etc... She was always afraid I'd get lost, or like... god forbid... get hit by a car.

She also tried to hold my older brother's hand with her other hand, but he of couse was older and felt embarassed by it so he refused.

I sometimes just run off and go ahead of her because I was bored and felt like she walked too slow, and like I wanted to peek inside a store from the glass window, for example, then we get to a crossing, and she grabs my hand again. Now thinking back, that was actually so wholesome. Like it kinda feels safe and secure being held on to closely.

The memories I remembered of this was around when I was 8-12. Any older than that and I think I just got tired of it and embarassed and I refused lol.

My dad never tried to hold my hands... I guess fathers are just different lol.

Did your parents do that? Did you like it?

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[–] 2 points 1 year ago (3 children)

My mother did not. My father may have, but what I remember is when I was older and he started putting his hand on my back when we were out together. That was weird and possesive

My parents did not love me lol

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  • [–] [S] 1 point 1 year ago* (2 children)

    Sorry if this is not the tine to ask, but: Curious what aspect made it weird?

    Was it like... sexual or anything?

    Because afiak, I never ever thought hand holding was in anyway sexual, especially between parent-child. I'm from a East Asian culture, and although spouses rarely show affection, usually parent-child relationships are pretty normal. I don't think anything would even bat an eye if a father held the hands of the daughter. But in America, that's somehow weird? Idk, cultural differences.

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  • [–] 2 points 1 year ago (1 child)

    He put his hand on my lower back after puberty, where before he'd just hold my hand. I should probably have clarified that. My dad was not an affectionate man.

    This was also in the early 00s when purity balls were common, so having attended one of those I definitely feel like his hand placement was possesive

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