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[–] 1 point 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (10 children)

You have to understand your own limitations.

  • They are 25 years old.
  • They live with their mom.
  • They never had a job.
  • They only play games.
  • and you don’t even live in the same town as them.

Someone, probably their mother is enabling this.

There is absolutely nothing you can do for either of these people. What you have to do is recognize that one day they will be at your door begging for support.

Get as far away from them as you can. You have no bargaining power here. Hey stop doing that thing that is so easy and come do this really shitty hard thing … because…

Listen to me man, get the fuck away from them.

Finally like others have said, you are judging them and rightfully so.

These dudes are losers. Find better friends.

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  • [–] 12 points 1 year ago (9 children)

    "hey guys how can I help my depressed friend" "just ghost them bro"

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  • [–] [S] 2 points 1 year ago (1 child)

    Yeah I mean I don't disagree that maybe theyre a lost cause but im not going to randomly stop being their friend. I may be enabling it, but its better than ghosting.

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  • [–] 3 points 1 year ago

    You are a good person for caring, and as long as you take care about your own wellbeing, there is nothing wrong with trying to get someone to be a better person. Imagine it like this: If you were helping a human who fell into drug addiction and homelessness recover, would you be a good or a bad person? The only difference here is the circumstances of your friends being more comfortable.

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  • [–] 1 point 1 year ago* (3 children)

    I didn’t see where the OP pointed out that diagnosis. I saw where he worried that they would be depressed in their 30s.

    Also the OP doesn’t live in the same town with them. So what is he going to do Tex them regularly.

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  • [–] 2 points 1 year ago (2 children)

    Does somebody need a diagnosis for you to give them empathy?

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  • [–] 0 points 1 year ago (1 child)

    Yes.

    Now a days everyone has a some syndrome or another. It is amazing how many people confuse their incompetence with imposter syndrome.

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  • [–] 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

    Regardless if somebody has a mental disorder, a developmental disorder, a physical disability, a mental disability, etc. they deserve respect and understanding.

    Empathy is not to be confused with sympathy. Empathy is putting yourself in another person's shoes and trying to understand their situation and feelings to the best of your ability.

    Sometimes what people need is patient instruction, not judgement. If you are as competent as you seem to be at whatever you do, it should be extremely easy.

    Venting to an online stranger unsolicited shows that this is bothering you a lot, so hopefully you consider heeding my advice and take it out for a spin.

    Truly great people don't look down on other people or see themselves as superior. They're busy, y'know, being great.

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