That is a good perspective on a majority of hetero marriages. Key take aways is communication is so important in relationship. My spouse thanks me a lot that I'm not "one of those husbands" and actually when I was putting my son to bed last night he said he's glad I'm his dad and I'll quote "because if I was a lazy dad he'd tell me to get out so he could have a hardworking dad like me." He doesn't see me at work, he meant at home.

I know there are other dads out there that do strike a balance in the home. So we (men) are not all hopeless. But I'm not ignorant to not recognize the vast majority are big children looking for a mommy instead of a wife. In the example of what my son said above, parents need to be examples of what is right. He sees me cooking, cleaning, and doing everything around the house. Also participating in his life and being present for him. That's what matters most.

Anyhow everyone with children should be aware of these issues and do better than their "traditional" parents. Break the cycle. I don't want my kids relying on another person to do basic life functions, that's a very pathetic way to be.