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What does it feel like to be a horny man? (feddit.uk)
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[–] [S] 2 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I was in an open relationship with my ex, and I’ve come to the conclusion that it’s not for me. I understand that polyamory isn’t the same thing, but honestly, I think that would be even worse. I can handle the idea of her having sex with other guys - but the thought of her having romantic feelings for them is something I just can’t bear. I’m done with that kind of setup.

Right now, I’m focusing on dealing with my porn (and weed) addiction to see if quitting those changes anything. I’m also open to the idea of dating another guy - something I haven’t tried yet. But if neither of those things works out, and I can’t find a partner who’s okay with very little or no sex, then I guess that’s just the end of dating for me.

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  • [–] 1 point 1 year ago (1 child)

    Fully understandable... almost. I'll admit I'm a little confused to hear there's a porn addiction in the mix. Not in a judgement kinda way, porn can be fine for some people, but I don't normally associate heavy porn usage with low-libido?

    Again, neither is inherently wrong, I'm just surprised and wonder if maybe I misread the situation, you know?

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  • [–] [S] 2 points 1 year ago*

    Here's what I responded to other user about this:

    Porn and masturbation feel good. It’s the physical stimulation I’m addicted to - porn just amplifies it. You can even take it further with porn, drugs, and masturbation combined. It’s not about having an itch that I’m trying to get rid of; it’s about the sensation of scratching it that I crave. I start watching porn and masturbating first, and only then does the feeling of “horniness” follow. The idea of walking around with that itch - without having first triggered it through stimulation - is completely foreign to me. And honestly, I don’t need anyone else to scratch it for me - I’m better at it myself.

    Here's the full exhange incase you're interested

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