I used to feel dread when I logged into reddit and saw that someone had replied to something I wrote. I no longer have an account there, and I even went for the nuclear option of overwriting all my old messages,

then deleting them in case they chose to restore them, because:

fuck spez

For me personally it helps that I'm on a dedicated instance for Danes, so that's kind of like a safe haven, or like a kiddie pool where it was easier to get to know lemmy at first.

I no longer dread when someone replies because most of the people here on lemmy aren't assholes. I think it's because there's this barrier to entry which filters out a lot of people, or maybe it's that the assholes are looking for fights to begin with and is therefore attracted to the biggest platforms?