I just realized the following:

-I am the first in my extended family to have a tertiary education. My parents and grandparents were laborers.

-Despite having two degrees, I've never been able to use either of them

-I spent the next twenty years working various customer service jobs while never actually rising through the ranks.

-Today I'm over 40 and looking at living paycheck to paycheck until the day I die or retire. No-one in my generation with half a brain expects retirement to just, y'know, be there when it's our turn. All of us are waking up to the reality that despite paying into SS for our entire working lives, we will never get even a fraction of what we put in back.

Given these circumstances, how am I supposed to convince my son to continue his education when he's finished with high school? I feel like a liar already for trying to convince him that if he just works hard at something it'll eventually pay off, because I have seen firsthand that this just isn't true?

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[–] 8 points 1 year ago (1 child)

I'm in a similar boat, 2 bachelors and a master in stem fields, 46 years old and dirt poor. Given up on retirement and home ownership. I'm pushing my kids to finish high school, after that tertiary education is only for if they want a career that needs it. Been teaching them their whole lives to lower their expectations, and enjoy the simple pleasures. God I feel terrible for forcing them into the world.

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  • [–] 1 point 1 year ago

    I am interested in knowing more about your life experience, if you are willing to share. Were you not able to find a job in your specialty or was the pay not worth the university cost? What happened at the end of your student career? Is there something you look back to as the key reason for your lack of monetary success?

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