Yup, I don't have an entire solution, just wanted to share a potential piece of the puzzle. I could've made that more clear as you pointed out

Generally, on Lemmy if I get a single downvote within seconds of a negative reply it gives me the impression that whoever I'm talking to us an emotionally stunted toddler who can't use their words to adequately describe their thoughts and need to do the digital version of throwing a fit. It gives some additional context on how to engage (or not) lol.