Say you've got a young relative or some one you are mentoring who is considering this kind of decision?

How would you expect to convince them to make a different decision if you yourself don't understand or can't empathize with why they are making a decision?

Its a 🪱 🧠 level of understanding to think that understanding why some one makes the decisions they make or has the thoughts they have indicates in any way that you agree with them. Understanding why someone makes a decision they make is not equivalent to agreeing with them, and its a mental deficient to avoid understanding someone because you don't agree with them. Its precisely because you don't agree with them that you should strive to understand them.