Without voice or text chat enabled that expectation of "should use VC to not be a burden on your team when they're trying to communicate" is if course a projection, but it's still powerful, and there's no way of knowing how true that projection is without actually hearing from your teammates. So there's really now way out of it besides "get over it" (which isn't easy after a lifetime of learning to cater to others unspoken expectations)... Or by playing a game where there is no option of VC, so there cannot be any possible expectations of it, and no downside of not enabling it.

For something one does to unwind I don't feel like unpacking and facing deep-seated psychologically ingrained issues and the level of discomfort that brings, so it's easier to choose games where that issue isn't an issue.

And now, after playing for a few years I feel confident enough to actually consider playing games with mic on. But I wouldn't get there if those were the only ones available, I'd just find a different hobby or play offline.