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It's a sign of affection (media.piefed.world)
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[–] 18 points 1 year ago (8 children)

On the opposite end it's dogs for some reason.

I want a relationship, but I don't ever want to live with a dog. Apparently that's literally impossible if women's profiles on dating sites can be extrapolated to the general population of women lol

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  • [–] 13 points 1 year ago (3 children)

    I had an ex where I literally made a rule she could only show me five dog pictures per day.

    my wife wanted a dog until we had a kid. I don't think she's willing to take on any additional responsibilities at this point.

    So... Jeez... I guess my advice is "make a lot of rules and try knocking them up" ... But somehow that doesn't seem like good advice...

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  • [–] 4 points 1 year ago (1 child)

    My "problem" is that if I know they want/love dogs then I feel like it's wrong for me to pursue a relationship with them. I wouldn't want to make them give up something they really want/love just to be with me

    (I'm definitely not that special lol)

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  • [–] 2 points 1 year ago

    Probably going to catch hate for this, but I don't think that should stop you from taking steps towards a first date.

    If you're honest about this (and everything else) then they can make the decision for themselves.

    It's actually kinda uncool to pre-emptively make decisions on behalf of other people, and if I could give my younger self some relationship advice, it'd be that. For me it was rooted in trying to be helpful, but it isn't. It's actually kind of offensive. I'd hate it if someone did that to me.

    It MIGHT be a deal-breaker for some people, but I don't think that percentage is actually that high.

    Also, not to diminish your feelings about dogs... But I've seen it happen even with kids. Two people get together, both dead-set on not having them. Then, they both realized that they just couldn't see themselves with kids in the context of previous relationships.

    Not saying you should count on someone changing their mind, or someone changing yours. You shouldn't. But... If you're up front an honest... It's also worth considering that it's possible that your own convictions about wanting/not wanting something isn't as ironclad as you imagine it is.

    Go on dates with girls who love dogs. Be honest. Let people make their own decisions. See what happens.

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  • [–] 1 point 1 year ago

    I'm married, have two kids and they are driving the dog adoption. The wife is onboard and I can live with it although I do push back on the suggestion it will make my walks better 🐕‍🦺

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  • [–] 4 points 1 year ago (3 children)

    Heh. I had some friends who got married because of their dogs. It's how they met, how they bonded, and the wedding was mildly structured around them. Some people really like dogs, and it shows.

    I can take or leave them.

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  • [–] 4 points 1 year ago (2 children)

    The way I like to describe it is like the joke grandparents make about being a grandparent: "It's great, I can come over and love and spoil the kid then I get to leave."

    No dealing with all the extra bullshit that comes with dogs, barking, begging, chewing, walks, accidents, etc etc...

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  • [–] 7 points 1 year ago (1 child)

    No worse than kids, and people never seem to shut the fuck up about those.

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  • [–] 5 points 1 year ago

    So the same, then, meaning it should absolutely be a conversation and agreement about responsibility accepted by both parties.

    “I want to have a baby” and “I want to get a puppy” are things people say when they browse Instagram and aren’t committed to what those things mean.

    “I want to raise a child to the best of my ability until it’s an adult” and “I want to take care of a dog and provide it with everything it needs until it eventually dies in my care” are what they really should say.

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