I'm 6' where it matters - in all frames of reference which are approximately 0.4C slower than my frame of reference.

Stop thinking the companies are showing you a representative sample. They're expert at manipulating you to their benefit.

Destruction of OkCupid as an attack against its liberal-skewed user base
https://lemmy.world/post/24108120

Physically I'm attractive enough, if I wasn't guys wouldn't be accepting to go on dates with me as a trans person

Somehow making fun of the men attracted to me gives me some sense of power I never have

You seem to be a very nice and stable person. Are you sure you are attractive?

I don't get what the point of this is unless you don't care how long your relationship lasts

https://parameeter.org/

Good idea! Anybody want to start a team to build a working app for the next FediCon?

It would only make sense at eg. a fediverse-con where there's a lot of enthusiastic fediversists and they'd all be willing to use it at once in the same location.

I'm aware of a couple FOSS dating apps but they're not federated. None are popular either. The problem is that dating apps really need a good influx of new users and a strong population for all of the positive network effects to keep going as people stop using the app. The fediverse is still pretty niche [citation needed] so building an app that does well isn't going to be helped by putting "it's federated" front and centre. Personally, I think it makes sense to focus on making a good dating app (like one with a good questionnaire akin to OkCupid) first and then adding federation later once the minimum features are functional. Unfortunately that makes federation hard, because it'd be a centralized platform with some inertia at that point.

I think #Fedidate and similar Mastodon tags are probably the better solution at this point. Or the significantly better option of meeting people irl.

So you'd marry or otherwise commit long term to someone who cheated on you? Or lied to you repeatedly?

I mean some folks do, but I'm not into continuing relationships with people who violate my trust. But I'm weird like that.

Then use a different app? There's like a 100 of them.

Bumble is famously the only dating app that is not match group

Seems like your reading comprehension is lacking.

Men bad.

I mean the first messages were usually something like "Hey"

While Match Group owns a lot of dating apps (match.com, Tinder, Hinge, OkCupid, Plenty of Fish), Bumble is not one of them.

Though apparently Match did at one point try to buy Bumble.

they are not the same company.

Skill issue

It's match group isn't it... I tend to forget sometimes that in this world every company gets bought by some gigantic asshole company

Making the first move is a skill. Many women are not practiced in that skill, for various reasons. Anyone's early attempts at a skill will likely be awkward and ineffective.

Thus, many women are bad at first messages and find the experience unpleasant.

On top of that, many men are shit. Just absolute trash to talk to.

So not only are many women floundering with this new skill of "send a good first message", when they get responses it's often men responding badly.

So it makes sense they'd give up. They're not going to fight against all the social norms.

They are the same company

edit: I stand corrected. They are (still) not the same company

"Bumble decides to become tinder clone #2647264843862 following in the footsteps of literally every other dating site."

If I match with someone and then they tell me that the age on their profile isn't accurate, that's an immediate end for me. If you're willing to lie about your age on the dating app I'm not taking any chances trusting anything you tell me.

It's been years since I was on dating apps but I'm hardly shocked. I got plenty of bumble matches and I'm pretty certain I never exchanged more than 5 messages on the app. The vast majority of women simply never sent a first message or the rare ones that did hit me with "hi" or "hey" which is honestly worse than having me initiate the conversation because I have to awkwardly respond and start a conversation. It's a fun idea in theory, but reality is a real slap in the face