[–] 3 points 9 months ago (1 child)

It really depends. And it is awfully unfair. Women have lingerie. Guys... have underwear.

If the objective is to tease and just make things simmer for a very long time, give me lace, strong colours and as little fabric as humanly possible,just barely visible or noticeable under the clothing. Is it there? Is it not? Keep me guessing.

If it is to set the mood and go straight to the point, lets move towards full body web or mesh suits, with open crotch. Let's be obvious. Very obvious.

For guys, being one, I would like to have some choice but the most risqué underwear I own are jock straps. It's good for a laugh or a tease, but not much else.

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  • [–] 2 points 9 months ago (1 child)

    It's not about the who but the context where I find myself. Being a bit of a naturist/nudist, nudity is not immediately sexual for me. I'm comfortable with my body. I do avoid making others feel awkward.

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  • [–] 7 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 child)

    It smells like reheated puritanism in here... Glad to know the more things change, the more they stay the same.

    No, it would not matter to me. I wouldn't ask, either. People deserve their privacy. But I'm aware of how outdated that concept may sound or be, nowadays. If I got to know, I'd like to know from the start. Because... yes.

    The least I'd expect would be for the person to respect me and make sure everything was well and safe, before condoms could be considered to be overlooked. I always made sure to watch my health in regards to others.

    I'm aware that for this hypothetical STDs are to be diaregarded but still...

    But "body count"? What happened to "sex partners" or "lovers"? Got too clinical or too intimate? I'd like to understand the almost pathological need of lingo nowadays to create distance or sound military. In this case, both at the same time. Let's dehumanize ourselves a bit more.

    Going back to the original question again:

    No, it does not matter how many people warmed their sheets or enjoyed their bits. Good for them, got lucky, but I get to keep the prize. Maybe share a bit, if we get a bit more on the wild side.

    Let's raise the stakes. What if the person is/was a sex worker? A prostitute or maybe a porn actor or actress? Does their line of work makes them less worthy of having emotional needs? Less human? Less of a person? Not really. In my understanding they are as deserving, if not even more, of having someone love, respect and support them.

    I remember watching this documentary on sex workers years back and how this actress described her need, after a long day of work of being fucked, to go home, have a shower, have a nice meal with her partner and afterwards go to bed and make love in the missionary position. Telling, isn't it?

    And in the extreme scenario of that long line of people stemming from some trauma or perhaps a mental health condition, again, it should not matter at all.

    I'm now available for your downvotes and vitriole.

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