I'm in an eerily similar situation. Married 14 years, getting a divorce soon after she decided she was no longer attracted to me after about a year of her trying and internalizing her feelings.

I'm hoping I can have a friendship with her, but this all happened a month ago so it's too fresh to tell if that can happen

Apparently it's a book title of the same name. "A book of political subversion"

There's nothing in the middle of the road but yellow stripes and dead armadillos Book by Jim Hightower