Put in effort

Take great photos

Fill out your profile

Don't just message "Hey/Hi"

Stay away from Match Group.

Destruction of OkCupid as an attack against its liberal-skewed user base
https://lemmy.world/post/24108120

It doesn't matter in trying to figure out if they like you or not. Know where you're at. State your intention, ask them out. Have no expectations

Don't take it too seriously. These are total strangers, go in with zero expectations, and just walk away if you are not having a good time. Other people know nothing about you either.

People take it way too seriously and get way too emotionally involved with photos on a screen, and have a bad time.