My wife uses a power chair (cerebral palsy) and we love going to Amsterdam as it's so easy to ride around.

Paris is also very good for disabled visitors but for a different reason: a great bus network that supports chairs (but the metro is gated by stairs)

Just need to get away from the tourists

Solid advice. We stayed near the Noorderpark and that part was refreshing.

We took a flight to Amsterdam for a lengthened weekend once and had a hostel in the Red Lights district, or very close by at least if not on it. Yeah the central was utterly packed with bikers and tourists and boy, you better not wander into the bike lane. as a pedestrian. (Yes I know short depicts Germany instead but couldn't find the guy just yelling "bike lane, this is a bike lane" and now I don't know whether it's a short I've seen or an anecdote I've heard.) Anyway, my friend had a friend living in Amsterdam Noord, so we took the ferry over. The entire walk+ferry ride from our hostel to the apartment in Amsterdam Noord was at most 15-30 min, with the ferry. (I might be misrembering the crossing time but.)

And Amsterdam-Noord was super chill, no tourists, not really that many people either. (Although it was a Thursday night iirc so...) And not like apartment buildings but like terraced houses etc.