The only thing I want to do with my girlfriend id hold hands or hug. For some reason, sex and even kissing feels weird to me. I love my girlfriend, but I don’t wanna kiss her and it makes me wonder if she’s just a best friend/platonic partner. Is it possible I’m aroace? I need advice.

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[–] 6 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

There's quite a few different forms of aromantic and asexual identities. All of them have a lack of sexual or romantic desire on some level. Cupioromantic is someone who desires a romantic relationship but doesn't experience romantic feelings. A demiromantic only experiences romantic attraction after forming an emotional bond.

Trying to define "romantic feelings" is kind of difficult, because it differs for everyone. I would probably say you have an aversion to sexual intimacy, and that can include deep kissing.

Here's list I stole off the internet of types of love. It might help you narrow down your feelings

7 Types of Love

  • Friendship: Intimacy without passion or commitment

  • Infatuation: Passion without intimacy or commitment

  • Empty love: Commitment without passion or intimacy

  • Romantic love: Passion and intimacy without commitment

  • Companionate love: Intimacy and commitment without passion/sexual desire; this could also be called "platonic" love

  • Fatuous love: Commitment and passion without intimacy

  • Consummate love: Commitment, passion, and intimacy

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  • [–] 3 points 1 year ago

    I'm similar. I would get into it every so often, but it usually just felt like a chore.

    I would say let her know how you feel and if it doesn't work out, just try to find someone who feels the same.

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  • i tend to feel similar

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  • [–] 2 points 1 year ago

    Hard to give substantial advice when it's not a lot of information you gave. I'm not saying you should give more, better keep it safe online.

    Generally I think it's a good idea to not try to hard to put a label on yourself. In the end it's not that important if you're ace or something else but that you're comfortable with yourself.

    Also, I think keeping your gf in the loop regarding your wants, needs ad feelings towards her is pretty important. Communication is key.

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