Yeah I always try to stay an open book so long as the location isn't a place people are forced to be such as work, or like you said while people are eating, I find it best to just talk openly about most topics. My spouse was surprised a few times because she wasnt used to be able to talk openly about herself. She grew up in smaller towns in Tennessee and it was taboo apparently for her to ever even mention she started having periods, so when I met her she was 30 and still was afraid of mentioning them. Her asking me to pick up pads/tampons or something when I was going to the store was a big hurdle for her. That was something I talked to her about that I would never want our kids (if we had any) to grow up that way. If someone is hurting, whether it be physically, mentally/psychology whatever it is, I'd rather us both know about it and have no solutions than one of us be in the dark and the other living in fear.