Ok, but isn't that the problem? Expecting misogyny and accepting misogyny are not the same.
Like, if you knew someone who was racist, and then they assumed you were their race, and you corrected them that you were not, and then they start in with bigotry and shit, that doesn't make you the problem, even if you did know that he was a bigot and going to be shitty and hateful.
Nobody should have to pretend to be something they aren't to avoid harassment.