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Anon creates a mystery (sh.itjust.works)
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[–] 2 points 13 hours ago (2 children)

Really? I mean, not to pry, that's a difficult situation to be in. Are you completely estranged from your family?

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  • [–] 2 points 13 hours ago* (1 child)

    Yeah. I guess I'm a bit used to it? It seems normal to me. I've been like this for over a decade now. Just working, getting by, and minding my own business. I have a cat. It doesn't bother me a whole lot like you might imagine. But even as a kid all my interactions with other people were pretty negative. So I kind of associated other people with being hurt and saw getting to be alone as an escape. I see myself as like a modern version of the hermit who lives in the woods.

    Edit: To be clear by saying yes to estranged I mean like I keep them at arms length. I see them from time to time. But I don't tell them anything, and I don't trust them. I mostly just interact with them to be polite.

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  • [–] 2 points 12 hours ago

    I can appreciate that aspect of interactions shaping your sociability. When I was a teenager I once wrote in my diary that, "my favorite people to speak to are strangers." I enjoyed talking to people I'd never meet again because the potential for abuse, emotional manipulation, etc, was lower. When the conversation was done, they would functionally disappear and there would be no consequences. The internet is quite a large pool of strangers.

    However, I'm not really a hermit. I have a friend I see once a month or so, and a partner who I live with. I also work out of a field office staffed with co-workers, who I see on an almost daily basis. I do also see my family members from time to time out of what I image is a similar feeling of obligation.

    Probably most of my communication is with my coworkers and my partner.

    Do you feel at odds with your identity as a modern hermit? Or, do you enjoy it?

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