I understand sometimes people lie to avoid hurting someone, but a lot of the time it seems unnecessary. When something really important happens and honesty matters, people still choose to lie instead of just telling the truth.

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[–] 5 points 15 hours ago

Totally agree with the conflict-avoidance answer. A small reframing: making mistakes is perfectly normal. A lie is usually an attempt to skip owning one.

What makes you a mature person is:

  • Acknowledge it to yourself: nobody is perfect.
  • Plan the recovery: there’s a fix for everything but death. An honest apology is often most of it.
  • Own the fix: you dropped the bricks, so you pick them up. Don’t wait for someone else to do it.
  • Learn from it: making a mistake is fine, repeating it isn’t.

A lie turns one mistake into two, and the second one is harder to undo.

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